Perspective
I’m home from Kenya (after a billion hours on planes) and all I can think about is: perspective.
Being out of the country during, arguably, one of the most controversial political seasons and inaugurations of our lifetime, really put things in perspective. For the most part, our team was completely oblivious to what was happening back home in the United States. We had very little internet so we only were able to check in periodically and we were largely off social media. Not being entrenched in social media, not having access to American news channels or newspapers, and frankly, just being busy the whole time we were gone, kept our team focused on things outside of American politics.
And honestly? It was such a blessing. As I sat on the plane to come home, I dreaded the thought of going back to that reality. Please hear my heart on this… not because I don’t love our country (I do! Red blooded American right here!), and not because I don’t love my family (because oh MAN did I miss them so much!)… but because being in another country during this particular time in our own country’s history put some things into perspective for me.
While Americans were watching Trump being inaugurated, I watched street boys walk up to our van sniffing glue out of a Sprite bottle to cover the pain of hunger. One street boy, no older than 7 or 8, threw his bottle of glue at our bus, mad that we wouldn’t give him money.
While Americans were fighting over whether or not they loved Trump’s inauguration speech or were totally offended by it, I walked past a baby, no older than Amos, sitting naked and crying in the streets of the slums. The look on this sweet baby’s face was a face of hunger, despair, and so much pain.
While protestors in DC burned trash cans and broke windows of banks and Starbucks, two million Kenyans were facing starvation because of an ongoing severe drought. This is on top of the millions of Kenyans who are already resorting to picking food from the dump in order to eat. In fact, our church and the community didn’t even have any water on Sunday because of town rationing. Yet, they still worshipped and they still praised the Lord.
While men and women were deciding whether or not to march on Saturday, I saw beautiful young girls and women stand on the streets of downtown Thika feeling as if they had no other option but to sell themselves in order to meet basic needs like paying rent and feeding themselves and their families.
While friends and families argued in social media threads over topics where no one can win, our team sat down with mothers who were sacrificing, literally everything just to be able to send their children to school. The Kenyan government issued a mandate that schools need to integrate technology in the classrooms. While, in theory, this sounds great… the fact is, the infrastructure isn’t there yet. Schools in poor and rural areas don’t have electricity, let alone the funds to build a computer lab and provide computers for kids. So, because of this, many schools literally doubled the school fees this year. That is crippling for these families. In some cases, we spoke with mothers who had to pick which one of their children they could afford to send to school because they couldn’t afford to send all of them. These women were taking a gamble on their own babies.
While American parents argue over how long to rear-face or forward-face their kids in a carseat, I watched a Kenyan mother, HOLDING A BABY, riding on the back of a boda boda (a motorcycle taxi). And no, they weren’t wearing helmets. (I realize this particular point isn’t political, but it just goes to show how different our “problems” are that we choose to argue over).
The political climate in Kenya right now is so corrupt and so disruptive, it makes our political climate look like a high school student government election. In 2007, when the current Kenyan president was elected, thousands of people were killed because of so much violence, protesting, and tribal backlash. Kenyans fear greatly that the same thing will happen during the election in August of this year. We would see and hear cars driving down the streets with loudspeakers attached to them, the driver literally yelling out political propaganda, putting an ever increasing amount of fear and anxiety in people.
There is so much darkness, so much spiritual warfare, so many challenges, and so much pain in Kenya. It is truly heartbreaking. But, in direct contrast, Kenya is also more beautiful than I can even begin to explain. Between the natural landscape, the incredible animals, and some of the most joyful, gifted, and humble men, women, and children you will ever meet… Kenya is filled with so much beauty. So much beauty.
There are people there who are truly doing some of the most amazing work for the Kingdom of God. We have a church family there with a staff that is humble, selfless, and on the ground fighting every day for the good and for the least of these in their communities.
I’m not saying our country doesn’t have problems. It does. I’m not saying we shouldn’t have the tough, important conversations about our political landscape. We should. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be active or engaged in our communities and our political system. We absolutely need to be.
What I am saying is, we could all use a little perspective. We could all afford to show a lot more grace to one another. We all need to stop bickering and fighting and come together as communities, cities, counties, states, and a country and work together to make change happen. Change isn’t going to come from the White House. Change is going to come from you and I doing the hard work in our own backyards. It’s getting off of Facebook and getting outside and doing something about the change we want to see. It’s asking our neighbors how we can help. It’s simple acts of kindness. It’s sitting down with one another and getting to know someone who is different from us. It’s having respectful conversations and learning from others who share a different point of view. It’s picking up the metaphorical shovel and getting to work.
It’s not going to happen overnight, that’s for sure. But we can start now.
This is one of my favorite posts of yours… Thank you for such great perspective.
I do not think you are trying to diminish the problems we have in this country – rather explain that a problem we may see as huge is actually relative in the grand scheme of things. I do believe if we forgot about “sides” and talk to each other respectfully as human beings, we would diminish the anger.
Thank you for your post.
I do agree with one of the above posters. I truly appreciate the perspective and the admonition to help and to listen. I do worry though that this diminishes the very terrifying problems currently facing our country. I am/was/? a Christian and am absolutely heartbroken at the Christian community in response to the new administration. That our president can stand there and say “america first, america first” to a world that watches, that our president can ban the entry of those whom Christians are called to love the most, the hurting, the sick, and he was allowed to do so DIRECTLY because of the evangelical vote is not to be ignored. The way that same administration has sought to delegitimize the press and the freedom of speech is terrifying. Jesus speaks over and over again to love those who need love, to provide for the sick and hurting and our country has dramatically changed course over the past few year in this regard. You cannot compare Kenya and the United States, they are vastly different worlds, political climates, cultures. The dangers we face today are very, very serious and to diminish those concerns is short sighted.
I hear and see what you are saying Dalia, I truly do. I will also say that it is also dangerous to make the hasty generalization that all “Christians” and all “Evangelicals” believe that way and are acting that way. Just like it’s dangerous to say that all Muslims are violent extremists or “insert any number of stereotypes here.” I am a Christian and I did not vote for Trump. I believe in being the hands and feet of Jesus and loving the marginalized, the victimized, the sick, the poor, the hungry, the orphans, the widows, the homeless, etc. That’s why I went to Kenya. It’s why I keep going back. It’s why I volunteer and serve in my own community. It’s why I try to be a voice for ethical brands that are working in vulnerable communities across the globe and/or treating their employees with kindness and dignity. Because that is within my control. That is how I vote every day. I vote with my dollars and support companies doing good. I step outside of my house and get to work in my own community and even travel to Kenya to do the work there. Because that is within my control.
Yes, Kenya and the United States are very different. Obviously. However, the point of this post was not to diminish our own problems or our own concerns in our country… it’s just to offer a different perspective. I’m also not saying that we shouldn’t have tough conversations and contact our legislators (I was a lobbyist in my day! I used to work for Tim Kaine when he was Governor of Virginia) and we should hold Trump’s feet to the fire… we should. But bickering online with one another isn’t going to do anything or change anything.
I hope you understand my heart…
I do see your heart and hear your care, that is why I read and appreciate your blog. As painful as it is though, 4 out of 5 white evangelicals voted for trump and the ideas he presented during the campaign, the ideas which he is now implementing throughout the nation. I strongly believe that as Christian who see the devastation being inflicted and see how this must pain the heart of Jesus, that we must speak up. We are members of this community and we cannot be silent, we cannot diminish the horror of these acts, we cannot stand down. We are the ones in the best position to speak truth into the lives of other white evangelicals and we cannot, we must not hesitate. Forgive me for being so impassioned but those of us who see the truth we have a most heavy obligation. People are suffering, the heart of Christ is breaking this is the time.
Those are nice words, but not entirely true. Change does often come from the White House – good and bad. While 4 million women marched for women’s rights on Saturday, Trump sat in a room full of white men and made decisions about the health care of those very same women in Kenya you are talking about. This is not about social media, this fighting is about real problems and real people.
I totally hear what you are saying, Noelle. That wasn’t really the point of this article… I certainly am not saying we do not have our fair share of problems as a country… we do… and I’m not saying that we shouldn’t contact our legislators and voice our opinions. We should. However, social media arguments in threads aren’t going to do that. Getting out and doing the hard work will.
Thank you so very much for posting this, Molly. I really needed to hear this, especially at a time like this. A much needed perspective, indeed.
thank you for reading and sharing, josh!
Thank you Molly for sharing your learned perspective with us. I have been very discouraged the past few days from all of the arguing, hurtful social media, selfishness, and confusion our country is going through right now. I agree that sometimes all it takes is getting off social media and instead interacting positively with the world around us to bring light to the world. Challenging myself to do that, especially this week. Thank you for encouraging us in our own perspectives and for posing the hard questions and realities outside of our own country. Glad you had a safe and fruitful trip!
thank you, danielle!! <3