Success Tips: Why Success Comes to Those Who Keep Showing Up
I get it, I do. We live in a world culture of extremely high expectations. Whatever it is that you “do,” it’s almost as if there is this unspoken need to be amazing at it and the best at it and the most dominant at it… overnight. In a world where we are all “connected” to each other via our handheld devices, it can be really easy to assume that that guy or that girl over there has it all together and they’re killin’ it and bringing in all the [insert whatever you want here… money, power, clients, readers, followers, etc].
I’m a blogger and a podcaster. That’s what I do for a living. Sure, it’s unconventional and when I was a little kid and I was asked what I wanted to do when I grew up, blogger and podcaster were not on the list. You know, because they didn’t exist as professions (or at all). And in my line of work, it can be increddddddddddddddibly easy to compare myself to what everyone else is doing. I can ask myself why I don’t have more Instagram followers or Facebook fans or Podcast listeners or Pinterest repins or WHATEVER. I can constantly flip through my social media feeds and look at what everyone else is doing and I can start to feel really bad, really fast.
It’s just not healthy and it’s just not productive.
The truth of the matter is, as cliche as this sounds, comparison really is the thief of joy. Wasting your time worrying about what “everyone else is doing” is a basically one-way ticket to failure-ville. No one grew their business (or their life) by spending their time worrying about what the competition is doing.
The fact is, success comes to those who keep showing up and keep doing the work. It’s a real life example of “You do you, boo. You do you.”
Let’s look at a few examples for our success tips…
Oprah. She was fired from her first job as a TV anchor. The television station that fired her told her that she was “unfit for television.” She is now a literal billionaire. One thing I learned about Oprah that absolutely fascinated me is that when she was doing the Oprah Winfrey Show, she forbade her staff (and herself) from watching ANY OTHER daytime talk shows. She said that by looking at the competition, she was essentially the jockey who looks back at the horses behind him and ultimately loses the race. She was so adamant about running her own race and not worrying about the competition. And it showed… because no one could ever touch her.
Walt Disney. Did you know that Walt Disney’s first boss told him that he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas”…? Well guess what… Walt kept showing up and look at what a legacy he left.
Harrison Ford. He struggled as an actor for years… until he was cast as Han Solo in Star Wars in his early 30s. He just kept showing up to auditions until he finally got his break.
Morgan Freeman. Our BELOVED Morgan Freeman’s first major breakthrough role was when he was cast in Driving Miss Daisy… at the age of 52. FIFTY TWO.
Steve Jobs. He was a college dropout, a fired tech executive, and a failed businessman. But he kept showing up and he kept doing the work.
Richard Branson. You know, the guy who founded VIRGIN. He’s started so many businesses that failed (including trying to create Virgin Cola, a competitor of Coke and Pepsi), but he keeps showing up and he keeps doing the work and, well, now he’s a billionaire.
I think you get my point.
The reality is, there are no real overnight successes. Everyone has skills they develop over years, or trust they build over decades, and hundreds and thousands of hours of hard work that is happening behind the scenes before their “rise to fame.”
I am finding that this topic (and this conversation) keeps coming up whenever I interview a business owner on my podcast. Every. Single. Entrepreneur I talk to talks about how hard work pays off in the end and that you can’t give up if you ever want to be successful.
My encouragement to you today is to stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Run your own race. Don’t look back at the other guys. Build community with those around you. Encourage one another. And do the work. Show up, roll up your sleeves, and do the work.
The best success tips I received was that success doesn’t come to the one who gives up. Success comes to the one who keeps showing up.
What are your success tips?
Love this reminder – thanks for cheering us all on as we continue to show up day in & day out!
So well said and written Molly! One thing that I will add to your commentary of Oprah: when you “run your own race”, it is easier to “run your race” from a place of love and abundance, as if to say “look! this is another day I get to run! Yippee!!” Versus when you constantly look at others, compare their “race” to yours, your mindset turns to come from a place of deficit (need more, accumulate more, etc., will then make me successful) and of fear, which is never sustainable for very long. I’m guilty of not always staying in my lane myself however I find that everything is just much more enjoyable when you live from a place of grace and abundance. Love to you Molly!
Wow – talk about needing to hear this! I definitely find myself doing this all the time with my blog, ha-ha! A nice reminder to keep up with doing what I love and not worrying about “keeping up with the joneses”… Also – I say “you do you boo boo”…maybe a little too much! 🙂
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because that saying is the BEST. <3 so glad this helped you today!
Thanks for this! I really needed to read this! I love blogging, but it’s also hard trying to balance everything and sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it. But it is because I do it for me. But it’s also good to know that all my hard work will pay off one day!
yes girl, it will!! you’re amazing!
I love this post! I definitely agree how it is so easy to compare yourself to everyone else in the blogging world. You are killing it, Molly! I love your office space 🙂
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thank you, azanique!
So good. God has really been putting that “don’t look back” message in my hear this year so I know He called my attention to it here. I definitely needed this today and it reminded me of a message I heard Christine Caine give one time talking about “embracing your place” and how she just kept showing up. Someone said she was an overnight success and her reaction was “well that was a LONG night.” Thank you for these words!!
yes yes yes. oh man yes!!!!
Thank you for always being a bastion of positivity and encouragement. I love reading your writing because it always makes me feel like things will work out with the right attitude and a willingness to work.
what a huge compliment. THANK YOU, Darcy!